Disappointed?

What is the root of disappointment?

Is disappointment the opposite of hope?

Should we never hope so we are never disappointed?

“Assuming is the root of all disappointment” -Rogienel Reyes

When we assume, we cannot help but put our own agenda onto a person or event. Is our agenda always the best one? Of course we all think we are right. We have to operate that way because that is how we put one foot in front of the other.

dis·ap·point·ment

/ˌdisəˈpointmənt/

noun

1. sadness or displeasure caused by the nonfulfillment of one's hopes or expectations.

Disappointment can be a damaging emotion. Libraries have been filled with books that outline the damage and self-imposed life choices that have been caused by the disappointers. To disappoint, you have to fail someone's expectations.

Do people wake up in the morning and say, “I am going to disappoint someone today?”

Not usually. In fact, it’s probably quite the opposite. They either think, I’m going to try and do better”, or they don’t think about it at all.

How do the disappointed encourage the disappointers in a constructive way?

Shakespeare said, “Expectation is the root of all heartache.”

So, if we never expect anything from anyone then we will never experience heartache?

Perhaps, but then we will never experience happiness or pleasure either. Never expecting anything from anyone is unrealistic. Learning to deal with unmet expectations is more worth your time.

When you are the disappointed, you can go to the strong tower to gain your perspective and realize that there is someone greater than you.

Psalm 61:1-4 “Hear my cry, O God; listen to my prayer. From the ends of the earth I call to you, I call as my heart grows faint; lead me to the rock that is higher than I. For you have been my refuge, a strong tower against the foe. I long to dwell in your tent forever and take refuge in the shelter of your wings.”

When I think of how I have been disappointed, before I start to go to that dark place, I can look in the mirror and realize that “He who is without sin, may cast the first stone.” (John 8:7) Have I never disappointed anyone?

I have been trying to answer all my woes with WORSHIP.

Sounds counter intuitive, but I assure you that if you are in the dark place and you start to sing praise songs you will be amazed at how transformative it can be. My recent go to is The Goodness of God, https://youtu.be/84Lr_tV5fRU

Go ahead, I dare you.

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Addendum: When I was a kid I played soccer. One year I had a coach that yelled at me all the time. I once got up the nerve to ask him why he yelled at me so much and he said, "When I stop yelling you should worry, because I have given up on you."

So to all the DISAPPOINTERS out there: The people that expect something out of you are the ones that really care about you. Think about it.